How to Heal Disempowerment Wounds

(blog series #5/11)

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Do you frequently feel helpless, struggle with decision-making, or doubt your capabilities? Do you find it challenging to assert your needs or boundaries in relationships? If so, you may carry the disempowerment wound.

Take our core wound quiz to determine if disempowerment is your core wound (and if not, check the other blogs on healing core wounds:)

Why focus on healing your primary core wound first?

1. Maximize healing impact: By addressing the wound with the most significant current impact, you'll experience substantial improvements in your well-being and relationships, providing motivation and momentum to continue healing.

2. Clear a path for healing other wounds: Healing your core wound develops essential skills, insights, and resilience for addressing other wounds effectively.

3. Gain clarity and direction: Identifying your core wound illuminates patterns and triggers, helping you set clearer goals and track progress.

4. Prevent overwhelm: Prioritizing your core wound allows you to maintain focus, avoid burnout, and ensure meaningful progress.

Ready to embark on your inner child healing journey for the disempowerment wound? Follow these steps:

STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE: HEALING THE DISEMPOWERMENT WOUND

Step 1: Identify Disempowerment Patterns

Begin your healing journey by cultivating self-awareness. Notice moments when you feel helpless, doubt your capabilities or struggle to assert your needs. These patterns signal that your disempowerment wound requires attention and healing. Keep a daily journal to document these experiences, and consider starting a mindfulness meditation practice. These tools will help you better understand your inner world and manage your emotions during your healing journey. (check out my meditations on Insight Timer here). These tools will help you deepen your understanding of your inner world and better manage your emotions throughout your healing journey.

Step 2: Identify Subpersonalities

Explore your inner system by asking these questions for each subpersonality:

1. What emotions or behaviors arise when you feel disempowered? (e.g., indecisiveness, passiveness in relationships, etc.)

2. What triggers strong reactions, causing you to feel helpless or avoid asserting your boundaries? (e.g., being criticized or facing new challenges, etc.)

3. What name would you give this part of yourself? (e.g., The Helpless Inner Child)

Discovering your subpersonalities is a process, so be patient and compassionate with yourself as you take the time to name and understand these parts of you. Tracking your patterns in Step 1 will significantly help you identify these parts more easily.

Step 3: Self-Compassion

Explore the Pathway Back to Love Process–  I created this to help you  practice self-care when you’re feeling emotionally dysregulated and want to soothe your inner parts system: close your eyes, place one hand over your heart, and:

1. Acknowledge: “Parts of me are active, and that's okay”

2. State to yourself “ Emotions are temporary waves in the ocean of who I am” 

3. State to yourself “ I choose to be kind and love myself through this” (or choose your own compassionate phrase) 
   
   

Step 4: Activate One of the Seven Soul Qualities

Healing the disempowerment wound involves activating the Seven Soul Qualities as described in a previous post in this series. They are: Peace, Love, Joy, Freedom, Trust, Courage, and Power. In this post, we will focus on the qualities of Courage and Power to overcome feelings of helplessness and self-doubt. But please do choose one that you most want to cultivate within and ask yourself, how might I bring this quality to my day? (lead with your intuition!) 

Courage: Reflect on a past event where you showed courage in setting a boundary, or made a decision even though you were wracked with self-doubt– no matter how small! It could be a time when you stood up for yourself or faced a challenging situation head-on. Take a moment to write down the emotions you experienced during that event. 

Then, visualize a future situation that will require courage. Imagine how you would approach it with a sense of bravery, and write down your insights.  Journal about what it would be like to summon more courage in your daily life, one small step at a time,  and consider taking a tiny step forward this week, knowing you can take a break if it becomes too difficult. Repeat as needed :)

Power: Developing personal empowerment helps you build a strong sense of self-worth and reduce the impact of disempowerment fears. To nurture your inner strength, first, visualize a moment when you felt powerful and capable- just like the courage quality activation, nothing is too small. You just need a power-laced memory to tap into. Connect with that feeling and then expand it. See that feeling as a beautiful white light all around you for at least 2-3 minutes. Consider situations that you may want to face while feeling empowered. Imagine this powerful light all around you, and commit to taking at least one step forward each week.

Step 5: The Akashic Core Wound Method

Once you've gained insight into your inner parts system and cultivated self-compassion, I invite you to join me on the Akashic Core Wound Healing Journey. The Akashic Records are a spiritual realm containing a vibrational record of every soul's journey throughout time. Accessing these records can provide insights and healing for our core wounds. Through the Akashic Core Wound journey, I invite you to focus on healing your disempowerment wound- but not until you have focused on the steps before and feel that you are gaining insight into your inner parts system as well as compassion for yourself. And please note: There is no time limit on this, everyone's journey will be different!

(CORE WOUND HEALING GUIDEBOOK HERE WHICH INCLUDES MEDITATION)

Next Steps on Your Core Wound Healing Journey

As we end, I encourage you to stay curious on this transformative journey of healing core wounds. Remember to be patient, shower yourself with extra self-love, and remain mindful of your inner patterns. Celebrate every small victory along the way – each one is significant! Every step brings you closer to living an empowered and authentic life, true to your Soul's mission.

Please share your experiences, insights, and questions in the comments below, as we create a supportive community on this healing path.

Stay tuned for the next blog post in this 12-part series, where I will guide you through healing survival wounds. Together, let's continue cultivating courage and personal power to overcome feelings of helplessness and self-doubt.

Also quick note: I have a new book coming out this year that provides the full map for your core wound healing journey, all in one place with exercises and guidance to help you make momentum forward on your core wound healing path. I invite you to click this link below to join the book interest list, to be the first to receive exciting goodies alongside the book, as well as when the release date is: 

Please do share in the comments any insights you’ve gained or what you’re excited about,  I’d love to hear from you!